Inspiration

Here's a youtube playlist that I'll continue to populate based on videos that I listen to all the way through and ones where I believe they make good points, share important information, or suggest improvements, all that sort of thing. Videos that are worth a second listen through.

Honestly, just listening to these people talk has already had a significant positive impact, but I'm looking for long term sustainable change.

Lots (most) of these are from Tom Bilyeu and Jay Shetty. I find they are very respectful to their guests in their interviews, they ask important questions, and they dig into the meat of the issues that are being covered. Their guests are people who are experts in their fields and/or have become widely influential. Often they've got a book to schill, but it seems for the most part that any concepts can be applied without purchase.
Considering that some of these people have already had a positive impact on my life, I don't mind throwing ~20$ their way to buy a book that I can read to further apply, solidify, and reinforce. (books haven't come in yet).

Inspirational Playlist 

I'm going to have to give most of these videos another listen through as I've already forgotten which ones say what, but here are a couple quick things I'll be focusing on:

• Begin every day with two questions: What is one thing I am grateful for? What is one thing I hope to accomplish today?

  • End every day with a review: What did I accomplish today?

  • I'm going to add my own +1 to that: Did I brush my teeth today?

    • This +1 question can be something that evolves as I progress and get better at self care. Maybe I'll add another question, or maybe I'll change it to something else if I don't feel like I need to keep track of that anymore.

  • I'm going to try to make a short post every day to cover these points to help me keep track of my progress and to see how I evolve over time. I'll have to make a special section for that.

• It is surprisingly helpful to keep track of things that you have completed. 

  • It seems rather frequent that we keep a list of shit we need to do or projects we're working on and things that haven't been finished yet and all this focus on the big pile of things that aren't done yet which can weigh a person down.

  • Keeping a list of things that you have completed and reviewing it every once in a while (whenever you add new things to the complete pile) helps to celebrate and acknowledge your own accomplishments and shows you that you CAN and DO get stuff done and it helps to provide motivation for future activities.

• Say it OUT LOUD

  • Yep. That thought you have in your head of that thing you really ought to do, or probably shouldn't do? Say it out loud.

  • So for me, when the thought comes into my head, gee I should brush my teeth (do you see a pattern yet?), the next thing that I should do, regardless of whether I want to brush my teeth or not, is to say out loud to myself: "I am going to brush my teeth".

  • This is also useful for when you are going to pass over a threshold in the process of going to get or do something.

    • "I'm going to go find my hat."

    • "I am looking for my keys"

    • "I'm going to go get a drink"

  • Why say it out loud? By saying it out loud, you engage your vocal chords, tongue, lips, facial expression. You may gesture with your arms or body. You hear the words being spoken and they vibrate through your head.

    • What you're doing is taking a relatively immaterial thought (a brief chain of synapses) and making it very physical.

    • In the process you're creating a memory (which you're more likely to recall compared to a passing thought) and you are notifying the rest of your body, "here's what we're about to go do". So regardless of where the thought occurs in the brain, performing it as a physical action will get the whole brain on the same page and in the language that it speaks in that area.

Videos I have notes on:

This One Hack Will Help You Take Control of Your Brain | Mel Robbins on Impact Theory

• I am actively trying to apply this in my life. 

• Employing a 5 second rule will help you pattern interrupt negative thoughts and prevent indecision.

• I don't have good notes on this one, so I clearly need to listen to it again.

Jada Pinkett Smith : ON How To Heal Your Past & Love Yourself Again

• *tags: to help you understand yourself a little better

• Some of us have a part of us that was created out of necessity to deal with difficult things as we were growing up. It takes emotional intelligence to recognize this part of us and that it can cause us to act out of proportion to certain triggering events.

• Send your shadows off with a thank you. You helped me then, but I don't need that anymore and thank you for protecting me back then, but we've got it from here.

  • It's a part of yourself - Work through love.

• Nobody can do to you what you don’t allow (in consensual relationships).

• We stay stuck in certain patterns when we refuse to look at ourselves.

• You’re not up against someone else’s behaviours, it’s yourself.

• People are NOT mind readers. Your parent may have been good at reading your behaviour and predicting your actions, but someone who has not grown up with you will not have that knowledge.

  • You need to communicate in your relationships (platonic and otherwise)

Page update WIPper snapper notes:

• Ideally it's a list with the video name, link, and an expand / collapse section for notes.

• With enough videos, I would likely want to separate them by genre based on the main one or two points. 

  • Tags would work much better for this task to allow videos to stay listed any which way, but allow a filter to be applied - now we're getting complicated.

• If enough time progresses and I am actually able to put some of these points of advice into use, I'd also include a section on what points were the most helpful and which I had the most success with.